Simple and short article with a simple and short introduction:
Let's presume you are playing basketball and you shoot... and you miss! You have failed that shot. But if your objective was to make ONE SHOT out of 100, did you fail? Only if you gave up.
Be Persistent
Many fail because of the same simple reason. They try once, they fail once, they give up. Succeeding in anything is something you have to fine-tune. Now this may sound discouraging to idealists but it shouldn't be, even to them! I will write an article in which I will tell you how to program your subconscious mind and how this is a process but it is one that NEVER FAILS! The fine-tuning is related to the programming of your subconscious mind. That's why it takes SOME TIME. "Some time" can be less or more, depending on how good you are at programming your mind.
So the simple advice: be consistent with your goal and keep your eyes on the prize! If you look at the first results, you will get discouraged. Keep your eyes on the prize and on what you will bring into your life after you achieve your goal. You don't quit after making that first shot, do you? You keep shooting until you score. Believe me when I tell you: after every fail, you become BETTER!
Be Consistent
This is also one of the most common reasons why people fail. They keep changing their goal. They never make a real decision. They never stick to one goal. Choose a good goal and STICK TO IT until you succeed! The subconscious is an obedient servant when it has a clear job to do. But imagine having a servant and telling him to bring you an apple. Then you tell him you want an orange. Then you tell him that maybe an apple would be better... AH.. no.. orange. NO, WAIT! APPLE! That's how confused your brain gets when you keep giving it different orders. It just doesn't know what the f*ck you really want! ( using the F word to give you an idea about how frustrated your subconscious gets with this ). Don't doubt it. It's frustrating to have an undecided master. You can never know what to do to please him.
Choose a Good Goal
I know how hard this can be for most people. Sometimes you just don't know what you really want. You don't know what goal to set for yourself. You don't know what you can achieve. Well... there is a very easy way to create a very clear goal for yourself with all the details you need. I will write about it in the next article and link it here.
So why do we fail? We don't choose a good goal, we are not consistent and we are not persistent. It is so simple. Many are very familiar with this information. They heard it somewhere or they read about it. If you know this information and still fail with a lot of your goals then I have to annoyingly repeat: the reasons for failure are REALLY THIS SIMPLE! There is nothing more to it! You either do not know how to set good goals, you are inconsistent and / or you do not persist. Many times we don't understand or see simple things because of our tendency to over-complicate things.
Not convinced? Believe me! Don't believe me? You will eventually believe me... believe me! :]
I agree with persistence, but the real obstacle to persistence is the emotional turmoil of failures that become unbearable. At this point giving is not the first choice but one that can release all the pain you're going through at the moment. Although it is not the solution because it becomes also painful in the near future to see that you haven't progressed and are back to where you were.
ReplyDeleteIt's like if you want to accomplish your dreams, you have to go through all the pains that are holding you back and be challenged by them. Maybe become living your dream requires you to be on a higher level of consciousness. That can come from overcoming your inner fears and pains. And I think that is why going after your dreams can be so challenging.
Fear of change, homeostasis, attachment to the old. Sometimes we can get rid of all that by just saying with all of our heart, an honest "FUCK THAT! I'm sick of the old. I want the new. I will get the new!".
ReplyDeleteAnd then we make progress for a few days, we are motivated and we get to a point where fear of change, homeostasis, attachment to the old kicks in again. What then?
Don't resist resistance is the simplest thing to do but hard to understand what it means. I achieved my goals lightning fast when I didn't resist resistance. Even if the goals were "out there" and I never ever did anything similar to those goals.
Don't resist resistance... something that I still struggle to understand intellectually.